Positive Parenting Coaching
Disciplining children after a divorce raises many challenges. After all, divorce is stressful to everyone and it‘s normal for children to exhibit increased behaviour problems when their parents part way. Single parenting under the best of circumstances isn’t easy. Without anyone else to take over or back you up, disciplining children on your own is a lot of responsibility. Other issues, like residency battles, can make life after a divorce especially complicated. .
In a perfect world, divorced parents would be able to co-parent seamlessly. Rules would remain consistent. Consequences would carry over from one home to the next. And both parents would work together to prevent behaviour problems before they start.
But of course, most people get divorced because they don’t see eye-to-eye. And differences in parenting styles are a common source of disagreement. But, even if you don’t agree on all parenting issues with your former partner, you can still take steps to teach your child the skills they need to manage his behaviour.
Unfortunately, many parents lose sight of how to best discipline their child when they’re going through a divorce. And all too often, well-intentioned parents make these common mistakes:
- Competing to be the favourite parent
- Not being honest about a child’s behaviour
- Talking negatively about the other parent’s discipline
- Feeling sorry for their child
- Inconsistent in influencing rules and consequences
- Emphasising discipline at the other parent’s house
- Overcompensating for the other parent
- Using their child to convey messages
- Refusing to work as a team
You don’t have to be best friends with your ex-spouse to help your child deal with divorce. In fact, some studies show that being good friends with the other parent can be even more confusing for a child. They may struggle to understand why you couldn’t make the relationship work if you’re able to get along so well after you’re separated.
The important thing to remember is that your child needs to maintain a healthy relationship with you. And giving your child healthy discipline after a divorce will help you maintain a good relationship.
- Does your child seem to have difficulty managing his emotions? Has she exhibit frequent emotional outbursts and minor things bother her?
- Is your child becoming impulsive? Does he display destructive behaviour like hitting, throwing things, screaming, etc.?
- Is your talkative child withdrawn into a shell or talks back and seems rude for no reason?
- Does your little boy lying more often, stealing or taking things that do not belong to them?
- Is your child’s behaviour affecting her performance at school?
- Does your child spit and gets into disagreements with her peers that affect her social life?
- Is your child unable to focus on one thing, gets restless, extremely lazy or disoriented?
- Is your child starting to question your instructions and does not respond to discipline. Is he defying rules just to challenge you?
WHO IS IT FOR?
- The New Journey is a coaching programme for single parents who want to utilise positive discipline to their parenting skills. The goal is not to achieve perfection, but to provide you with the techniques to help your children develop positive life and social skills. Our coaching programme is for parents of children between the ages of 3-11 year old.
- For Parents who want to discipline their child and to teach or to develop by instruction. Discipline is often confused with punishment. Punishment does not teach, but rather focuses on negative behaviour and responds to it with a negative result. Positive discipline has the goal of changing or preventing negative behaviour.
- For Parents who want to encourage their children to develop life skills so their children can grow to be socially and emotionally sound individuals, get along with others, and feel good about themselves.
- For parents who not only include interventions to be used with their children when they misbehave, but also to master coaching techniques to create a respectful, fair, consistent parenting skills.
Children learn by watching the behaviour of their parents, as well as by testing their own behaviours. Each behavioural episode is a chance to teach a child what is expected in that particular situation.
- Tailored programme to suit you and your child
- Addressing your child’s behaviour challenges
- Understanding the “hidden belief “behind your child’s misbehaviour and how to respond accordingly
- Focusing on solutions instead of dwelling on the negative
- Become natural in encouraging your child without pampering or praising
- Fostering creative thinking
- Developing positive communication skills
- Modelling positive behaviour
- Looking after your self